10 Signs You Are In The Wrong Relationship

Ten signs your relationship is all wrong for you
10 signs you are in the wrong relationship

It’s easy to stay in a relationship even when you know deep down it’s not going to last. In the beginning, you look beyond your partner’s flaws and the relationship’s shortcomings, holding out hope that things will change with time. Later, when you’ve been with your S.O. for years, you might stay because you’ve grown comfortable or fear to be on your own again. 

Below are 10 signs you’re in a relationship that’s no longer worth all your time and energy.

1. You’re settling for Mr. or Ms Good Enough.

There are plenty of things in life you can settle for, but you absolutely, 100 percent cannot settle on who you choose to spend your life with. If your partner doesn’t fulfil you intellectually, emotionally or s3xually — or if you’re just biding time with him or her because you’ve grown comfortable — it’s a disservice to both of you,

2. Your partner is your harshest critic. 
 Your partner should be your ride-or-die bestie, your partner in crime and your biggest cheerleader all rolled into one. If moral support is in short supply or if nitpicking and criticism are constants in the relationship, it’s a very troubling sign.

It’s one thing to tolerate playful teasing and pokes, but it’s another when jokes are seemingly always at your expense and criticism feels incessant, even when your family and friends are around.This is closer to bullying than it is to playful good fun. It’s a signal that your partner doesn’t have your best interests at heart.

3. You don’t share a sense of humour.

Does he roll his eyes every time you make joke or does he laugh like you’re the second coming of Louis C.K.? It might seem minor but if your partner doesn’t laugh with you, it’s problematic. Life is hard; you’ll need someone in your corner who’ll roll with the punches and try to keep the mood light when the unexpected happens, she explained.

You don’t need to be with the life of the party, but you should be with someone with whom you share a similar sense of humour.

4. You’re more in love with the fantasy of who your partner could be rather than who he or she really is.

When you’re in love, it’s easy to overlook any incompatibilities and fantasise about who he or she may be someday.Don’t fall into this trap; if you’re more in love with the fantasy of your partner than who he or she really is, you need a major reality check.
Fantasy is always better than reality, that’s why it’s called fantasy. You, however, live in reality. Present tense. Keep your head in the game in this relationship.

5. You’re just not that into his or her family (or they’re just not that into you).

It doesn’t bode well for your future together if you’ve met the parents and really don’t like them. It’s even worse if your partner continually takes their side in arguments and doesn’t seem to have your back. 

Bottom line: if he/she is more attached to their family than they are to you, run.

6. You’re constantly wondering why your partner’s behaviour doesn’t match up with his or her words.

Figuring out where your partner was on Saturday night shouldn’t be difficult. If you’re often wondering what your partner is up to when you’re not around — or he always seems to be telling some half-truth — you may want to ask yourself if the relationship is really worth the worry.

7. Your personal goals are at odds. 

The best relationships are built on a strong sense of partnership: As a couple, you should know and deeply believe in each other’s individual dreams — and those life goals should more or less be compatible. If you start to realise how at odds your hopes for the future are, you may need to step away from the relationship. 

Long-term relationships between two people who don’t ultimately want the same outcome is just asking for heartache.

8. You’ve felt more insecure since you’ve been in the relationship.

Your self-worth should in no way be tied to your partner’s opinion of you or your relationship status; your worth as a person comes from inside. That said, if your partner makes you feel unloveable or unsure of yourself to the point of anxiety, you need to address the issue.

Dating the wrong person can drive up your anxiety and self-doubt. The right relationship, on the other hand, drives up our confidence and satisfaction: we feel encouraged to strive to be our best selves but loved and accepted for who we are. 

9. You’re thinking about someone else.

If you’re actively wondering if the grass would have been greener with your college boyfriend, you may be in some trouble. Also a bad sign? Fantasising about what life would be like if you were single again.

10. You need to change who you are to keep your partner satisfied.  

There’s not one couple in the world who loves everything about each other. But if your partner looks at you as his personal pet project — someone he feels compelled to change in order to be worthy of him — you’re definitely in the wrong relationship.

When your partner makes you feel like you can’t fully express yourself or punishes you or puts you down when you tell a joke or express an opinion they don’t like, it’s a problem. If you can’t be authentic with your partner and accepted for who you are, what’s the point of the relationship?

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