10 Things You Should Never Do On A First Date

Ten thing you should avoid doing on a first date
10 things you should never do on a first date

It's been said that you never get a second chance to make a first impression, and this couldn't be more accurate when it comes to a first date. And while going on a first date may fill you with a vast array of different emotions, from excitement to anxiety, there are certain actions that can make or break the success of your date and directly impact the likelihood of getting to date number two. In fact, research has shown that you only have 12 minutes to make a good impression on a first date. So in order to truly hit it off with someone new and have a first-rate first date in every respect, it's never been more important to avoid doing any of the following ten things.

1. Being late 

Sure, there was a lot of traffic on the way to your first date. Or maybe you couldn't find a parking spot. Or perhaps you think that being fashionably late to a first date is the best course of action so as to not seem so eager or available. However, arriving late to a first date can be a major mistake, as it can be interpreted as a sign of disrespect and disinterest and can imply to the person you're meeting that you're not taking him (or dating in general) very seriously. Being on time in your personal life shows others that you value their time and are making them a priority, while simultaneously demonstrating that you're organised, responsible, and capable of making and keeping commitments.

2. Lying 

If you've ever lied on a first date, you're not alone. In fact, a survey of 8,000 men and women revealed that over 60 percent believe that it's perfectly acceptable to lie on a first date. Almost 40 percent of these women admitted that they'd lied about their age on a first date, and nearly 15 percent had even lied about their real names. Men are more likely to lie about their incomes on a first date, while both men and women are guilty of lying about their professions. But if you think that lying on a first date is the right way to make a good impression, you're actually just lying to yourself.

if your partner later finds out that you lied early on in the relationship, it can change the way they see you as a person. People who lie tend to be viewed as scheming manipulators who are deliberately looking to deceive others for self-gain. Lying can also be seen as a symptom of having low self-esteem as well as a poor self-image, both of which aren't appealing characteristics. Lying to your date also shows that you simply can't be trusted.

3. Being distracted 

If you're constantly looking down at your phone and/or looking around the room while you're on a first date, it'll likely also be your last. Sure, you may have things on your mind, but your lack of focus shows this person that he/she is not a priority, and not worth your time or attention. 

4. Not listening 

Along these same lines, while being distracted on a first date can be a major turn off, failing to listen to your date can have the same effect. In fact, many people simply wait to talk rather than truly listen to what their date is saying to them.

So if you want a successful first date, it's time to start listening with your eyes and your ears, which is a concept known as 'active listening'.

5. Bringing up your ex

If you're looking to make a good impression on a first date, it's important that you don't make your ex the focus of your time together. Even if your ex cheated on you and/or broke your heart, bringing him up on a first date is only going to imply that you haven't yet moved on from him.

Also Read: 20 Great First Date Questions

6. Being negative 

It should come as no surprise that it's far more enjoyable to be around someone who's positive, happy, and optimistic than it is to spend time with someone who's negative, unhappy, and pessimistic. So if you act negatively on your first date, it's highly unlikely that you'll get a second chance to negate this first impression.

7. Forgetting your manners

If you're looking to make a favourable first impression on your date, you should mind your manners. And while this certainly doesn't mean that you have to act in a way that's over-the-top proper and formal, it does mean that you should behave in a way that represents your best self.

For example, demonstrating basic table manners can make a positive impact on your date, and you should try to avoid talking with your mouth full, belching, swearing, and even picking at your teeth. 

8. Drinking too much 

If you don't want your first date to be a total waste, it's important that you don't get wasted. While you may enjoy consuming alcohol as a way to loosen up and lessen the anxiety that can come from first date jitters, drinking in excess can actually have the opposite effect and cause your body stress. When you're drunk, you're also negatively impacting your attention span, vision, and memory — all of which can make it highly difficult for you to focus on your date, your conversation, and even your surroundings in general.

9. Complaining 

Constantly complaining your first date is a major turn off that will likely result in your date complaining about you to someone else.

While you may be used to complaining to friends and family, choosing to vent on a first date and moan about all of the ways you've been wronged is the wrong approach when it comes to making a good impression.

10. Bragging 

Being confident is viewed as a highly attractive quality, but bragging about all of your accomplishments certainly isn't. And while you should be proud of your different achievements and successes, trying to convince your date how terrific you are is actually a terrible mistake.

 

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